The Gratitude Challenge Day 8 , grateful for friends and the gift of friendship.
“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.”― William Shakespeare
On to day 8 of the gratitude challenge, we are to send thank you notes to five people who deserve a little recognition. Well, let me say that I did not literally take on this challenge as suggested but rather chose to appreciate my friends without being very specific mainly because it is something I prefer to do and have done in person privately without having to share it publicly.
Let me start by stating that I am not the easiest friend to have, I also do not understand myself sometimes. I know the biggest complaint about me would be my complexity and unpredictability, unfortunately I do not know how to be any different. I am not a very good and consistent communicator, there are times I fall off the grid without any explanation or warning, not that I am mad or hurt or angry at anybody, I just want to be alone sometimes. There are times I do not answer my friends calls or attend events I am invited and most times it is just out of my introverted nature and not because I harbor ill feelings or any sort of animosity towards the person.
I am not the kind of person that is in or has a squad, I have a few friends that I love and cherish, I do not know how to have many friends in one go and all my friends are completely very different and sort of queer people. There are many times someone will ask me…. How it is that so and so is your friend, what do you talk about? My friends include those who are judged to be proud, arrogant, weird, too quiet, complicated and the like, but there is a way that we get to know each other and connect so well and this has always taught me not to stereotype or judge someone before I have gotten to know them. I most case the only thing in common with my entire group of friends is me. This puzzles me but like I have said, I am not the squad type of person, I wouldn’t fit in a squad anyway…….
To be honest though, I sometimes feel like these squads are similar to a group of mean girls that gang up against those outside their group in the name of supporting a friend or that may pick at you or look at you as less than for being an outsider (OMG I may have issues but I am not hating). So given my not so good friendship qualities above, I would like to appreciate all my friends in their different capacities for putting up with me and still loving and supporting me all the way.
My dear AK, you are so special, you keep reaching out to me even when I bury myself deep into nothing, when I cancel on all those dates even after assuring you I will be there you still text me telling me you love me despite being let down by me, you are so badass that you would be the friend I’d take along to set someone straight…. I would actually let you do all the talking and I’d be hiding behind you cheering you on (lol). I am not a coward, I just dread confrontation and I usually do my best to avoid confrontational situations as it makes me so uncomfortable).
My dear SMB, you and I go way back, you helped me cope at high school as the bucket (as all new girls were called), I was sort of culture shocked and coming out of some traumatic experience but you helped me navigate being a newbie and saw me through many challenges, you and I connected deeply and understood each other well, you are the smartest person I know and I admire you a great deal. It is an honor and at the same time quite intimidating that you check and read my blog quite often and it makes me always want to be better, God’s blessings my dear and I hope to be a better friend to you.
To you sweet hearted and very flexile BLAA, your are a so full of life and you love life, you are that reminder of the beauty of friendship. You think too much of me and I do not deserve it.
My dear friend WL, hmmmm weren’t we the cheeky bunch, together we could take on anything and anyone, I miss you and I pray we reconnect. Life sort of happened and we are not so much in touch as I would like to, I love and appreciate you.
My dears DM, PN and JN, I put you together not because I value you less but you represent one very valuable thing to me i.e being present when it gets hard. You helped me to face my fears, have sharpened me and have really been there for me through some of the most challenging times. You are work colleagues who became friends and family.
As I close the day 8 post of the gratitude challenge with another beautiful quote I found on friendship … Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one. ― C.S. Lewis
Blessings and thank you for coming by,